What I Didn’t Say To You in Bed This Morning

What I didn’t say to you when you asked, this morning, in bed. When you asked what I need from relationships. When we discussed you asking me if any men had contacted me lately. When you voiced your hurt that instead of hearing you, that I was making it your problem. I finally heard you. I heard the hurt, and fear, and longing. I heard what you wanted and needed to hear, from me. You want to love me fearlessly, yet cannot in the unknowing of what I am still…

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Deceptively Aroused

Arousal NonConcordance. Roll those words around in your head a couple times, because they’re ones you should remember. Simply put, arousal nonconcordance is when your mental and genital arousal don’t line up. We’ve all had these sorts of experiences: you’re bored during sex, but your genitals are responsive. You’re turned on but for some reason, your genitals just aren’t getting the message. While these are very common issues for a lot of people, we still tend to think that there’s something “wrong” when stuff gets nonconcordant. I’m here to tell…

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